Interracial Dating

I am someone that prefers to date outside of their race often.

I am a white woman and dating outside my race only became a problem for people when I started dating black men.

Some people (mostly white men) decided to think that it was an extra “bad ass” think to do which is ridiculous. 

One white man that WAS my friend before decided to say that he didn’t know I was “that kind of girl” the kind I guess that isn’t a racist???

Basically, he devalued me and decided to say that I was a slut because I dated black men. 

Not only that but he also continued to tell everyone and talk about it for the next year… So much that a girl that I barely knew came up to me and said “oh we all knew what you like, you like those black guys.”  

Why does everyone care so much??? Oh, yeah because of our history that’s why!!!

Me and my lover who was a black male kissed in a performance and several friends of mine who were white asked “who that black guy was” his race is mentioned but no one asked what his name was. 

Please stop the hate guys and let love happen!

Muslim, queer, feminist: it’s as complicated as it sounds.

days like crazy paving

blog post cover photo me: muslim no matter how I dress.

NOTE: I am closing comments on this post as of 13/03/2014 due to an influx of very bigoted conservatives telling me I’m a bad Muslim who’s going to hell (way to miss the point of the post!). If you’d like to contact me about this blog post, you can email me (jaythenerdkid @ inbox dot com) or tweet me.

There are three aspects of my identity that really can’t be untangled from each other:

I am a queer woman.

I am a feminist.

And I believe that there is no god but Allah, and that Muhammad is Allah’s messenger.

Yeah, it’s the third one that usually gets the record-scratch reaction.

I was raised Muslim, but in my teens, I became severely disillusioned with the faith. Having finished reading the Qur’an in English for the first time, I started to fully appreciate just how…

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Slut walks and feminist taboos


As a feminist and openly claiming to be one I have faced discrimination I have been:
Assumed to be gay
Assumed to hate men
Assumed to be radically sexual or radically unsexual
Sexualized and hit on when discussing women’s issues
Not taken seriously
Been called a slut/whore
Asked “when are you going to stop with all this feminism talk?”

And finally… I’ve been told that there is no need for feminism and that we are all equal. What do you guys think?